Facts

How we live
Røntofte act as a collective, but you can easily retreat to the floor you live at, to your room, a smaller kitchen or living room in the house. We can accommodate 14 women and children, the house is a big villa with multiple floors. You have your own room and share a bathroom with others. You also have access to washing and cleaning facilities. We have big common areas and the kitchen is the heart of the house. In the kitchen we cook and eat all meals together every day. We celebrate birthdays and festive events , decorate the house and everyone contributes to making Røntofte as homelike and safe as possible.

Language lessons
We see to getting an interpreter when necessary. Furthermore, we offer Danish classes to all adults and young adults who need it.

Find Røntofte krisecenter her
Bøgebakken 18, Helsingør. You can call us at 0045 49216966,

You have the right to a life without violence
Everyone has the right to a life without violence. It is completely unacceptable to be exposed to violence and it is in facts a human right not to be a subjected to any kind. Physical and psychologic violence is punishable, also if it is happening within your own home. It is estimated that around 33.000 women in Denmark is exposed to domestic violence. No women voluntarily start a relationship with domestic violence. Domestic abuse increases gradually during a period and alternate between affection and abuse. The alternation between love and abuse can be considered as part of the coercive control and is an added complication to creating more insecurity and confusion in your life and your children’s life.

The seven types of violence
Physical violence: When you are hit, beaten, pushed, thrown or exposed to violence using a weapon or other objects. Coercive control: When you are talked down to, shouted at, criticized, controlled, managed or isolated. Sexual violence: When you are forced to have sex or participate in sexual acts, you do not like or your boundaries are crossed. Material violence: When your possessions are ruined, such as clothe, jewellery or your phone. Economical violence: When you are robbed of your right of disposal of your economy or forced into the incurring of debts. Electronic violence: When you via mail, text, webcam or other electronic devices receive threats. It might be hidden threats, control and surveillance. Threats of violence: When you or your children are threatened with the above-mentioned types of violence. It may be that your family or friends are threatened by the perpetrator. Når man bliver slået, banket, skubbet, smidt med eller udsat for voldmed våben eller andre genstande. Psykisk vold: Når man bliver talt ned til, råbt af, kritiseret, kontrolleret, styret eller isoleret.
Seksuel vold: Når man bliver tvunget til sex eller til at deltage i seksuelle handlinger, man ikke har lyst til, når ens grænser bliver overskredet.
Materiel vold: Når ens ejendele bliver ødelagt, eksempelvis tøj, mobil og smykker.
Økonomisk vold: Når man bliver frataget råderet over egen økonomi, bliver tvunget til gældsættelse.
Elektronisk vold: Når man via mail, sms, webkamera eller elektroniske redskaber modtager trusler. Der kan forekomme skjulte trusler, kontrol og overvågning.
Trusler om vold: Når man selv eller ens børn bliver truet om at blive udsat for ovenstående former for vold. Det kan også ske at ens familie eller venner bliver truet af voldsudøveren.

Landsorganisationen for kvinder har også beskrevet voldens natur på deres hjemmeside.

The spiral of violence
The violence escalates and will gradually be a normal part of the relationship. Common features in a violent relationship you might recognize: [ See picture below]

The formative phase of tension: The man gradually becomes more displeased. The women will try and smooth things out and avoid conflict.

The phase of violence: The tension culminates into violence.

The phase of rebuilding: Violence alternate between warmth and coldness. The phase is characterized by the man’s remorse and promises about change for the better towards the partner. Prior to physical violence is normally a long period of coercive control. The violence always develops, and the extent of damage will normally become progressively larger. In that way, the spiral of violence develops over time and will after some time become a normal part of the relationship. Røntofte crisis centre is a place for you, who wish to get away from the violence. We are here for you and your children, and we have helped many women towards a life without violence. We can also help you. Contact us at 0045 49212066.

Spændingsopbygningsfasen: Manden bliver mere og mere utilfreds. Kvinden forsøger at glatte ud og undgå konflikter.

Voldsfasen: Spændingen kulminerer i vold.

Genopbygningsfasen:
Vold veksler mellem varme og kulde. Fasen er præget af mandens anger og løfter om bedring til partneren. Forud for fysisk vold ligger ofte lang tids psykisk vold. Volden udvikler sig hele tiden – skadernes omfang bliver ofte større og større.

På den måde eskalerer voldsepisoderne med tiden, og bliver efter et stykke tid en normal del af parforholdet. Røntofte Krisecenter er for dig der vil væk fra volden. Vi er her for dig og dine børn, og vi har hjulpet rigtig mange kvinder videre til et liv uden vold. Vi kan også hjælpe dig. Kontakt os 49 21 20 66.

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